OK so I’m doing my usual thing when I get one of your newsletters. I do a quick scroll read through. And then I go oh God this is going to take me a while to process and think through. Because it’s all so good and applicable. I think the hard part is learning how to take these challenges and fit them into life when you still have to live it. Often wish I could just go away for six months then re-enter life. I know it doesn’t work that way though. Sigh. Thank you.
“Because that’s the work of marriage, or any serious intimate relationship. The progress is showing up and sticking out the tough moments instead of abandoning ship or burning it down.”
This causes a pause for me. I think I’m making progress... or am I making a huge mistake?
Leaving an abusive, unsafe, unhappy partnership is most assuredly progress. Doing what’s best for you even when it’s hard? Definitely progress. You’ve made no mistakes, only progress!
Thank you for this post!!!! As of late I’ve been feeling really down on myself because of the progress or lack there of - but if i look back I’ve actually made a lot 
I always talk about the word tangible because I need to “see to believe” and sometimes hold things in my hands ....
There’s a lot of progress I’ve made but I guess because I have been looking for tangible items to show that I’ve been one way or another let myself down because just like you say sometimes progress is not tangible and healing is not linear.
However this post makes me think of the carousel of progress in Disney World....
“THERES A GREAT BIG BEAUTIFUL TOMORROW, SHINING AT THE END OF EVERY DAY” are the lyrics to the song they sing....def look that up so much cool Disney history there
OK so I’m doing my usual thing when I get one of your newsletters. I do a quick scroll read through. And then I go oh God this is going to take me a while to process and think through. Because it’s all so good and applicable. I think the hard part is learning how to take these challenges and fit them into life when you still have to live it. Often wish I could just go away for six months then re-enter life. I know it doesn’t work that way though. Sigh. Thank you.
A great perspective as usual, thanks Adrian!
I loved the image of looking back in the cornfield. I needed to read that today. Awesome writing! Awesome lessons.
“Because that’s the work of marriage, or any serious intimate relationship. The progress is showing up and sticking out the tough moments instead of abandoning ship or burning it down.”
This causes a pause for me. I think I’m making progress... or am I making a huge mistake?
Leaving an abusive, unsafe, unhappy partnership is most assuredly progress. Doing what’s best for you even when it’s hard? Definitely progress. You’ve made no mistakes, only progress!
Thank you for this post!!!! As of late I’ve been feeling really down on myself because of the progress or lack there of - but if i look back I’ve actually made a lot 
I always talk about the word tangible because I need to “see to believe” and sometimes hold things in my hands ....
There’s a lot of progress I’ve made but I guess because I have been looking for tangible items to show that I’ve been one way or another let myself down because just like you say sometimes progress is not tangible and healing is not linear.
However this post makes me think of the carousel of progress in Disney World....
“THERES A GREAT BIG BEAUTIFUL TOMORROW, SHINING AT THE END OF EVERY DAY” are the lyrics to the song they sing....def look that up so much cool Disney history there