Thank you for being open so as to be able to share immense valuable insights into relationships. I believe I tend to withdraw, or hide, when I'm anxious within conflict.
Yeah I think I’ve mastered stonewalling. I justify it by saying it’s better than what will come out of my mouth. Read the book a few years past, saw myself in the 4 horsemen, got scared of the prospects for my marriage, and quit reading. I know now that I was not ready for change and neither was my spouse. Thankfully I am in a different place now, becoming the person I want to be. I really appreciate all you put into the newsletters.
I was subjected to constant criticism and contempt in my toxic marriage, which was definitely a big factor of my descent into disease. Prof. Jordan Peterson has a Big 5 Trait personality test which, as well as being very insightful on a personal level, has a couples version, which assesses both partners and gives information of things to look out for [not a compatibility test] https://understandmyself.com/personality-assessment .
You gave me some insight as to why I have burnt bridges with family and friends in the last 10 years or so. Sometimes when I look back at it, it’s alarming as to how accustomed I’ve become to totally write,off a long time friend or family member out of my life, label them an asshole, and convince myself that they’re dead to me. Thank you for the introspection Adrian!
Thank you for being open so as to be able to share immense valuable insights into relationships. I believe I tend to withdraw, or hide, when I'm anxious within conflict.
Yeah I think I’ve mastered stonewalling. I justify it by saying it’s better than what will come out of my mouth. Read the book a few years past, saw myself in the 4 horsemen, got scared of the prospects for my marriage, and quit reading. I know now that I was not ready for change and neither was my spouse. Thankfully I am in a different place now, becoming the person I want to be. I really appreciate all you put into the newsletters.
I was subjected to constant criticism and contempt in my toxic marriage, which was definitely a big factor of my descent into disease. Prof. Jordan Peterson has a Big 5 Trait personality test which, as well as being very insightful on a personal level, has a couples version, which assesses both partners and gives information of things to look out for [not a compatibility test] https://understandmyself.com/personality-assessment .
Your post also inspired to write up something I've been meaning to get round too for a while... https://garysharpe.substack.com/p/the-mind-body-interpersonalrelational
You gave me some insight as to why I have burnt bridges with family and friends in the last 10 years or so. Sometimes when I look back at it, it’s alarming as to how accustomed I’ve become to totally write,off a long time friend or family member out of my life, label them an asshole, and convince myself that they’re dead to me. Thank you for the introspection Adrian!